My newest gun

Hal · January 30, 2014, 06:33 PM

Don't ya just hate it when SWMBO

has other plans for your gun money?

Anybody else in this boat with me?

hbhobby · January 30, 2014, 06:55 PM

I feel for you! But she drives a brand new crossover while have the old truck and no new gun!

Glenn E. Meyer · January 30, 2014, 07:07 PM

1. I feel your pain.
2. Save the money for two projects. My 1911 is also known as the new drapes also gun.
3. Work extra to have a stash of money for guns. That's my plan. I buy guns with extra gigs off the main income stream.
4. Make reasonable arguments why the upcoming apocalypse mandates an arsenal update.

Otherwise - let's cry together.

I should close this as silly but what the hey.

**44 AMP** · January 30, 2014, 11:25 PM

30 some years back I made a deal, overtime money was mine to do with as I saw fit. Now, most of it went to other things, but some of it was my gun money, and I worked a LOT of overtime back then.

Now, I'm retired, and my gun money is, essentially gone, absent patient saving up. On the other hand, I have a few things is can sell or trade, so I'm not quite done, yet...

Regardless whether its a little or a lot, the important thing is that your gun budget does not harm your relationship with spouse or SO. Otherwise, it can get even MORE expensive, and less gun money!

LockedBreech · January 31, 2014, 12:17 AM

I was so sad when my 6-year relationship ended about a year ago.

Now I'm about to finish school with no debt, and I can't help hearing cash register sounds and picturing many, many guns.

MRYANJ99 · January 31, 2014, 09:09 AM

There's a big gun show coming up in March and I was drooling at the possibility of going with a couple grand in my pocket. Then the better half informs me that she wants to redo the bathroom and needs the entire tax refund to get it done. So guess who's not getting any new guns for a while.

Is it wrong to have a secret fund set up that the wife doesn't know about specifically for gun purposes?

Hal · January 31, 2014, 09:21 AM

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Is it wrong to have a secret fund set up that the wife doesn't know about specifically for gun purposes?

Nope - not at all...

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Matter of fact, things like that can come in handy if you play your cards right and are willing to make a sacrifice from time to time.

A number of years ago I bought a new car.
I was asking the F&I guy about monthly payments and how much less they'd be if I put more money down.

All out of the blue, my wife jumps in and asks what the payment would be if we put down an extra $5,000.00!!!!
I looked over @ her like she had a giant eyestalk growing out of her head and asked her what corner she planned on working the next month or so!

She just said, "It's the dog's money".
Here she'd been sticking away spare money from rebates and stuff like that for some time and sticking it in a separate bank account she used to buy the dogs treats and stuff.

Years later, I still have fond recollections of that and giver her a free pass when she pulls a "Let's go ahead and put in a new tub, new ceramic tile, paint and new vinyl floor in the bath" - all out of the blue.

That's a Glock 30 sitting in that pile BTW

Or maybe a Commander sized 1911....

It's hard to tell! Lol!

buck460XVR · January 31, 2014, 12:03 PM

I feel your pain......just took two empty ceiling fan/light boxes and 5 empty paints cans out to the curb yesterday......and there's a gun show in town this weekend.

Evan Thomas · January 31, 2014, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Hal

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Originally Posted by MRYANJ99

Is it wrong to have a secret fund set up that the wife doesn't know about specifically for gun purposes?

All out of the blue, my wife jumps in and asks what the payment would be if we put down an extra $5,000.00!!!!
I looked over @ her like she had a giant eyestalk growing out of her head and asked her what corner she planned on working the next month or so!

She just said, "It's the dog's money".
Here she'd been sticking away spare money from rebates and stuff like that for some time and sticking it in a separate bank account she used to buy the dogs treats and stuff.

I'd say it depends. If it's a fund like Hal's example, where the money came from sources other than the "official" family income stream, that's fine. But if it involves any form of dishonesty about how much you make, or how much you sold something for... not so much. Dishonesty is bad for relationships....
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Brian Pfleuger · January 31, 2014, 02:36 PM

and if you don't lie if the topic/question ever comes up.

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kilimanjaro · January 31, 2014, 08:16 PM

A good tile floor is a real treat for your house, though.

Be sure to start with a good subfloor, screw it down and work up. If a wet location, put down the waterproof matting on top.

Use a wet saw to cut your tiles, nothing else is as accurate. Color match the grout, and keep the joints narrow.

shuswap · January 31, 2014, 08:39 PM

I have found that one of the best sources of gun money is travel reimbursements and per diem payments that my employer gave directly to me. Makes a great slush/gun fund. Wives nearly always have a slush fund, why can't you.

Some years back there was an article in a hunting magazine titled "Gun Running Past Your Wife". It was comical. Might be able to find it on the internet.

Dc777 · January 31, 2014, 08:58 PM

I've found that the best way to have gun money is to not have a woman that your committed to. When the " mood" hits, go to the bar. I learned enough after seeing my mom leave my dad and then later in life seeing it happen to friends. Women like a mans money, but the problem is I like my money too. That's just my 2 cents.

ranchito457 · February 1, 2014, 01:08 AM

As the only bread earner in my house with a wife and four daughters-I set the rules many years ago before kids came.Real simple-I cover all the bill's-she runs the house-after the bill's are paid we split it.If I choose to save up and buy another 1911 thats on me-If she wants new carpet thats on her and if she wants even more she can get a job.Life is short,I work 50-60 hours a week every week-I ain't gonna beg for my gun and reloading money.

**44 AMP** · February 1, 2014, 03:30 PM

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Is it wrong to have a secret fund set up that the wife doesn't know about specifically for gun purposes?

Ethically? yes. If you have to hide it from her, you two have issues that ought to be resolved.

Legally? No. Not until you try to hide it from her divorce attorney!

My first wife would go through my wallet when I slept, to get her spending money. That was one of the reasons she was my first wife....

The current Mrs AMP wouldn't think of doing such a thing. Guess she just isn't as smart as the first one, since she's stuck with me for 35 years....

larryf1952 · February 1, 2014, 04:49 PM

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...I have found that one of the best sources of gun money is travel reimbursements and per diem payments that my employer gave directly to me. Makes a great slush/gun fund...

+1

Back in the '90's, I was often included in our client's contracts as an additional "engineering maintenance" man for remote television production shoots. I'd get a $150 fee above and beyond my salary and per diem for this. I'd do 3 or 4 of these a month. so I had about $600 every month to spend on guns. My wife was cool with me using this money as I wanted so long as I didn't touch my paycheck.

I could buy a nice 9mm back in those days for $300, and I bought A LOT of hardware back then.

RodTheWrench · February 1, 2014, 11:29 PM

"Is it wrong to have a secret fund set up that the wife doesn't know about specifically for gun purposes?"

I call it my "MDK money". As in "Mama Don't Know"

It comes from selling scrap metal at the shop (catalytic converters bring good $$!), parting out scrap cars and the occasional profit from fixing up and selling a car one of our customers didn't want to put money into.

Last year I was able to add several guns via the MDK fund.

Againstthewind · February 1, 2014, 11:45 PM

This is a fun one. While I agree that it is probably wrong to hide and sneak things from your wife, SO, etc. It is certainly tempting to have a separate account set up. The per/deim travel expenses thing is pretty clever. I luckily don't travel much lately, but if you are careful you can make some pretty good savings on per diem. Get some sandwich stuff or whatever instead of going out to eat when traveling, I think I get the idea. My problem is I am the one who comes up with the honey-do list that turns into a me-do list. There always seems to be something coming up, or a new project for me. Why in the heck did I buy that broken down old pickup project last month? Spending discipline is not my strong suit.

Againstthewind · February 2, 2014, 12:26 AM

Well, I am pretty excited now. My brother just bought me a 7 mm for my birthday. So maybe the best strategy is having a really nice brother. That was quite a surprise.

Hal · February 2, 2014, 06:46 AM

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My problem is I am the one who comes up with the honey-do list that turns into a me-do list. There always seems to be something coming up, or a new project for me.

Yeah - I have to confess this tile project started out as my idea.
I was looking at the floor in the kitchen and thinking how ratty it looked after 26 years.
It was a builders grade sheet vinyl to begin with and we should have replaced it ten years ago when we redid the kitchen.
I went out an bought some vinyl tiles for the kitchen and while I was @ it, I picked up enough extra to do the bath and the small entry hall.

My wife started talking about pricing in a whirlpool or Jacuzzi tub as long as we were going to be working on the bathroom.
One thing lead to another and voila' - major project time...

I just picked up the tile & by coincidence, a couple weeks ago I'd been looking at guns and thought - "Jeeze, I just spent as much on that pile of tile as they wanted for a Glock 30!"

GLI45 · February 2, 2014, 05:19 PM

To the OP. You're not alone. My desire for an STI Apiero just got delayed indefinitely due to the exotic granite my wife picked for the new home we're building. That's okay though. The kitchen will look stunning and my wife is happy. It's not like I don't have a safe full of pistols already.

bbqbob51 · February 4, 2014, 08:18 PM

My wife and I have separate accounts and we have divided up the bills. We have done this since we have been married...since 1975. When we were bringing up the kids and paying off our mortgage, extra cash was hard to come by. The last decade or so have been different and I try to tuck aside at least $50 a week for as long as I can for future toys. Put I away and forget about it and live within my means otherwise. Some weeks I can save more but it's always at least $50.
That's how I have obtained my guitars, guns and other fun stuff. I don't have to ask permission so long as I keep her happy with dinners, movies and other fun stuff. Every once in awhile she will put something in the safe and will notice the growing gun collection and will ask me how many guns I have bought lately. I tell her I have no secrets, all she has to do is count them and keep track. I'm not sure if she has done it or not. Hey it works for us!

DaleA · February 5, 2014, 05:32 PM

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"Jeeze, I just spent as much on that pile of tile as they wanted for a Glock 30!"

Ha! I'd be laying that tile with a smirk on my face.

(The tile wouldn't have to be laid STRAIGHT or anything would it?)

DaleA · February 5, 2014, 05:35 PM

After you take care of your obligations a little 'his money' and a little 'her money' to do with as you please can be the lubrication that keeps your relationship running smoothly.

Freedom.

Hal · February 5, 2014, 05:43 PM

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(The tile wouldn't have to be laid STRAIGHT or anything would it?)

LOL!
My wife won't let me near the thinset!

Neither will the tile guy

.

I'm the designated tile cutter/trimmer.
I'm the one that gets to have dirty water tossed all over the front of him while the tile guy is yelling at me to hurry up, but for the love of God, don't chip any of those tile when you cut them!

January 30, 2014, 07:07 PM	#3
Glenn E. Meyer Senior Member Join Date: November 17, 2000 Posts: 20,064	1. I feel your pain. 2. Save the money for two projects. My 1911 is also known as the new drapes also gun. 3. Work extra to have a stash of money for guns. That's my plan. I buy guns with extra gigs off the main income stream. 4. Make reasonable arguments why the upcoming apocalypse mandates an arsenal update. Otherwise - let's cry together. I should close this as silly but what the hey. __________________ NRA, TSRA, IDPA, NTI, Polite Soc. - Aux Armes, Citoyens

January 30, 2014, 11:25 PM	#4
44 AMP Staff Join Date: March 11, 2006 Location: Upper US Posts: 28,820	30 some years back I made a deal, overtime money was mine to do with as I saw fit. Now, most of it went to other things, but some of it was my gun money, and I worked a LOT of overtime back then. Now, I'm retired, and my gun money is, essentially gone, absent patient saving up. On the other hand, I have a few things is can sell or trade, so I'm not quite done, yet... Regardless whether its a little or a lot, the important thing is that your gun budget does not harm your relationship with spouse or SO. Otherwise, it can get even MORE expensive, and less gun money! __________________ All else being equal (and it almost never is) bigger bullets tend to work better.

January 31, 2014, 12:17 AM	#5
LockedBreech Senior Member Join Date: July 6, 2009 Location: Rocky Mountain West Posts: 3,395	I was so sad when my 6-year relationship ended about a year ago. Now I'm about to finish school with no debt, and I can't help hearing cash register sounds and picturing many, many guns. __________________ 16 Pistols, 5 Rifles, 1 Shotgun, no time to shoot them

January 31, 2014, 02:36 PM	#10
Brian Pfleuger Moderator Emeritus Join Date: June 25, 2008 Location: Austin, CO Posts: 19,578	and if you don't lie if the topic/question ever comes up. [/off-topic comment] __________________ Nobody plans to screw up their lives... ...they just don't plan not to. -Andy Stanley

January 31, 2014, 08:58 PM	#13
Dc777 Senior Member Join Date: November 18, 2013 Location: South West, Alabama Posts: 609	I've found that the best way to have gun money is to not have a woman that your committed to. When the " mood" hits, go to the bar. I learned enough after seeing my mom leave my dad and then later in life seeing it happen to friends. Women like a mans money, but the problem is I like my money too. That's just my 2 cents. __________________ NRA member Paintings were made to look at, and guns were made to be shot. If you aren't going to use them as they are intended for, get rid of them and buy a Picasso.

January 30, 2014, 06:55 PM	#2
hbhobby Senior Member Join Date: January 14, 2013 Location: Payson Az Posts: 169	I feel for you! But she drives a brand new crossover while have the old truck and no new gun!

January 31, 2014, 09:09 AM	#6
MRYANJ99 Member Join Date: March 7, 2013 Posts: 44	There's a big gun show coming up in March and I was drooling at the possibility of going with a couple grand in my pocket. Then the better half informs me that she wants to redo the bathroom and needs the entire tax refund to get it done. So guess who's not getting any new guns for a while. Is it wrong to have a secret fund set up that the wife doesn't know about specifically for gun purposes?

January 31, 2014, 12:03 PM	#8
buck460XVR Senior Member Join Date: December 28, 2006 Posts: 4,342	I feel your pain......just took two empty ceiling fan/light boxes and 5 empty paints cans out to the curb yesterday......and there's a gun show in town this weekend.

January 31, 2014, 08:16 PM	#11
kilimanjaro Senior Member Join Date: November 23, 2009 Posts: 3,963	A good tile floor is a real treat for your house, though. Be sure to start with a good subfloor, screw it down and work up. If a wet location, put down the waterproof matting on top. Use a wet saw to cut your tiles, nothing else is as accurate. Color match the grout, and keep the joints narrow.

January 31, 2014, 08:39 PM	#12
shuswap Junior Member Join Date: November 4, 2013 Location: Heart of Dixie. Posts: 6	I have found that one of the best sources of gun money is travel reimbursements and per diem payments that my employer gave directly to me. Makes a great slush/gun fund. Wives nearly always have a slush fund, why can't you. Some years back there was an article in a hunting magazine titled "Gun Running Past Your Wife". It was comical. Might be able to find it on the internet.

February 1, 2014, 01:08 AM	#14
ranchito457 Senior Member Join Date: April 2, 2013 Location: Manhattan,Illinois Posts: 179	As the only bread earner in my house with a wife and four daughters-I set the rules many years ago before kids came.Real simple-I cover all the bill's-she runs the house-after the bill's are paid we split it.If I choose to save up and buy another 1911 thats on me-If she wants new carpet thats on her and if she wants even more she can get a job.Life is short,I work 50-60 hours a week every week-I ain't gonna beg for my gun and reloading money.

February 1, 2014, 11:29 PM	#17
RodTheWrench Senior Member Join Date: April 24, 2013 Location: Utah Posts: 365	"Is it wrong to have a secret fund set up that the wife doesn't know about specifically for gun purposes?" I call it my "MDK money". As in "Mama Don't Know" It comes from selling scrap metal at the shop (catalytic converters bring good $$!), parting out scrap cars and the occasional profit from fixing up and selling a car one of our customers didn't want to put money into. Last year I was able to add several guns via the MDK fund.

February 1, 2014, 11:45 PM	#18
Againstthewind Member Join Date: January 4, 2014 Posts: 60	Something always seems to come up. This is a fun one. While I agree that it is probably wrong to hide and sneak things from your wife, SO, etc. It is certainly tempting to have a separate account set up. The per/deim travel expenses thing is pretty clever. I luckily don't travel much lately, but if you are careful you can make some pretty good savings on per diem. Get some sandwich stuff or whatever instead of going out to eat when traveling, I think I get the idea. My problem is I am the one who comes up with the honey-do list that turns into a me-do list. There always seems to be something coming up, or a new project for me. Why in the heck did I buy that broken down old pickup project last month? Spending discipline is not my strong suit.

February 2, 2014, 12:26 AM	#19
Againstthewind Member Join Date: January 4, 2014 Posts: 60	birthday Well, I am pretty excited now. My brother just bought me a 7 mm for my birthday. So maybe the best strategy is having a really nice brother. That was quite a surprise.

February 2, 2014, 05:19 PM	#21
GLI45 Senior Member Join Date: February 1, 2009 Location: Houston, TX. Posts: 143	To the OP. You're not alone. My desire for an STI Apiero just got delayed indefinitely due to the exotic granite my wife picked for the new home we're building. That's okay though. The kitchen will look stunning and my wife is happy. It's not like I don't have a safe full of pistols already. __________________ STI-Eagle(2)/Trojan(2)/Edge/Guardian/VIP/Rogue/Ranger III/Sentinel/Tactical 4.0/Escort; Remington Rand-1911A1; Ruger Redhawk/Blackhawk; Sig P238

February 4, 2014, 08:18 PM	#22
bbqbob51 Senior Member Join Date: November 6, 2005 Posts: 775	My wife and I have separate accounts and we have divided up the bills. We have done this since we have been married...since 1975. When we were bringing up the kids and paying off our mortgage, extra cash was hard to come by. The last decade or so have been different and I try to tuck aside at least $50 a week for as long as I can for future toys. Put I away and forget about it and live within my means otherwise. Some weeks I can save more but it's always at least $50. That's how I have obtained my guitars, guns and other fun stuff. I don't have to ask permission so long as I keep her happy with dinners, movies and other fun stuff. Every once in awhile she will put something in the safe and will notice the growing gun collection and will ask me how many guns I have bought lately. I tell her I have no secrets, all she has to do is count them and keep track. I'm not sure if she has done it or not. Hey it works for us!

February 5, 2014, 05:35 PM	#24
DaleA Senior Member Join Date: September 12, 2002 Location: Twin Cities, MN Posts: 5,312	After you take care of your obligations a little 'his money' and a little 'her money' to do with as you please can be the lubrication that keeps your relationship running smoothly. Freedom.