Skans,
You mean, just like
everyone blamed the aggressor and not the defender in
this thread?
Guess what. Real life doesn't always match fantasy life. Sometimes even well-trained people make mistakes. People without training, or with poor training, are more likely to make mistakes, many more mistakes and much more serious ones. Society does not give you a free pass to make those mistakes, no matter what the aggressor has done or intends to do.
If you choose to act -- "forced into it" or not -- you
will get called to account if you get it wrong.
pax