Good for you Homerboy.
The family and happiness is what's important at the end of the day.
My wife can hardly wait for me to retire, and she'd be more than a little pleased if I came home on any given day and I told her that I'd suddenly had enough and put in my papers ...
My favorite pancake-type holster, especially for my 3913, is a Don Hume H726. I used one for my 6906 for several years. Fast & secure ... with emphasis on the fast. Since it's a semi-open front holster it requires less upward movement than many regular belt slides & pancakes before the muzzle clears and the pistol can be presented. Not a bad deal for a shoulder which previously had rotator-cuff surgery, either.
http://www.donhume.com/Products/Prod...m?ProductID=49
The older models seemed to 'break in' easier, and had tunnel loop belt slots instead of the newer ones which just have slots. Here's a picture of one of mine, for a CS45, which is an older model.
Stay well and best regards,
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