Go here and compare the Recoil E(Energy) of like bullet weights.
http://www.chuckhawks.com/handgun_recoil_table.htm
An 1147 fps 300 grain .44 Mag recoils with 22.6 ft/lbs. A 1650 fps 300 grain .454 Casull with 38.6 ft/lbs. Velocity matters, as does bullet weight, but one handgun will feel more like recoil than another. Take the 7.5" SuperRedhawk. A .44 weighs 53 ounces, the .454 52 ounces. 38.6 ft-lbs. is going to be noticed more than 22.6 ft/lbs. The single ounce isn't going to affect anything.
Pay close attention to "However, perceived recoil, what the shooter feels, is a highly subjective matter." Not all handguns are the same, so you need to compare like handguns, not all handguns chambered in just any magnum cartridge.
If, for example, the Desert Eagle came in .454, it'd feel like it has less recoil due to the gas operation. Felt recoil out of a .44 Mag DE is nothing. Even though the friggin' thing is made for monkey hands.
A BFR weighs .6 lbs. more than a SurperRedHawk. And the design of the SA style grip helps absorb recoil. Buckets of factors apply to felt recoil, not just the cartridge though.