Sounds like a fair trade, but I already have a wife. Got anything else?
Just kidding. Having gone through the same quandary a few years back, I would recommend a 20 gauge gas gun. Lighter, but will take most of the recoil oout of shooting it. I picked up a 20 gauge Browning A5 (Belgian, of course), a 20 gauge Rem 870, and by then she was tired of being beat up, so I started looking for a gas-operated shotgun. I ended up with a super clean 2-3/4" 20 gauge Remington 1100, and the wife loves it. And I got it for just about nothing (because nobody wants 2-3/4" guns anymore
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