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Fists closed by your sides/ talking tough. Pushing people, a big no-no
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Spot on. Talking tough, or threatening people never de-escalates things. It either makes them want to prove themselves or scares them and backs them into a mental corner where fight or flight seems like their only option. In the same vein I try not to raise my voice or play into people's delusions. When I am trying to talk people out of fighting with me I want to be calm and factual. I also try to shut down side topics and digressions. It doesn't help to get someone talked down only to let them get worked up again over something else.