I had great fun trying many of the suggested loads and bullet combinations suggested buy so many of you folks. A real learning experience.
I have settled on the following (for now...it's perfect on recoil, we'll see at the range)
Bullet:
148gr. Plated DEWC (Rainier)
Powder:
3gr. Winchester 231
Primer:
Winchester
Brass:
Mixed
OAL:
1.262
This is a sweet shooting load in J and K frames...nice soft recoil for new shooters and my bride.
Again, thanks for all the detailed input. It sure makes reloading easier when you can get such enthusiastic assistance.
Enjoy your weekend.
Bob