[stagpanther]

It happens to all of us eventually..the decline during which we become more vulnerable--and more reliant on others for basic care as the final curtain call approaches. I'm approaching 70 so I've been through this quite a few times already with other relatives. The most important thing I've learned is that I'm not going to leave anything in doubt in my will--because any loose end is potentially an invitation for abuse and open warfare among the family. It's easy to sound altruistic and modest while people are still in this world--but once they're gone and their estate is "up for grabs" that's when the predator instinct becomes more pronounced in some people.