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The true nature of people has a tendency to show most clearly when a relative passes and all the inner vultures show themselves for what they are.
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Truer words were never spoke.
My brother destroyed our family by manipulating my mother and got her to change the will when she was well into dementia and neither myself or my sister knew anything about it until right before she passed. Her original 3 page will more or less split everything 3 ways; but my brother had her add a simple one sentence addendum that gave him 3/4 of her entire estate, my sister nothing at all, and 1/4 to me. He added extra spice to it by convincing our mother "we deserved it." He also got her to appoint him executer and gave him power of attorney over all of her affairs. When I got wind of all this I hired lawyers and they told me flat out that unless some other binding document exists that is also properly witnessed and notarized--my chances were not good. Once he secured all the money and the probate settled I never heard from him again.
I'm not spilling my guts to get everyone to say "gee, what an a-hole"--I already know that. The reason I mention it is because neither myself nor my sister thought it was any of our business to talk it over with our mother while she was still alive, and never in a million years would either of us thought our brother would be doing just the opposite; manipulating and maneuvering while we were in the dark. My point is that is just being naive--and any sense of "It's morbid to discuss while they are still alive" just leaves the door open for someone to screw even their own family members.