My dad used to say opinions are like a certain part of our bodies, everybody's got one and everyone thinks everyone else's stinks.
I respect TLG. That said I've heard this story before. Plenty of shooters have been using 180 gr 40SW for years without issue. Personally I don't care for the recoil characteristics of the 165 gr 40SW. The 180 gr 40SW isn't going anywhere anytime soon. Shoot what you like best.
Know the status of your weapon
Keep your muzzle oriented so that no one will be hurt if the firearm discharges
Keep your finger off the trigger until you have an adequate sight picture
Maintain situational awareness