The wife was not happy either, but I explained why I was doing it. It was to protect myself and my children. I offered her numerous examples of local stories where things could have ended differently if the victim was armed.
Not a happy woman for a while but hey if she opposed it that much she could opt out. I am opting in. The real world has convinced her I am doing the right thing. Then a meth head with a knife robbed an old lady at the local grocery a mile from the house that we frequent. It was a turning point. It was real to her.
She knows I carry and has asked on occasion if I was packing as she calls it. Perhaps she was nervous about something she saw. I don't advertise it to her or anyone else. I am the only one that needs to know. I just do it. She is fine with that.