View Full Version : OH Dear God, what have I just done???
EastSideRich
December 22, 2008, 08:38 PM
So I just got back from a trip to the range with my cousin who is back on leave from Iraq.
We had lots of fun shooting then went out to look at pistols; He is going to be stationed somewhere in Louisiana to be some kind of instructor and wanted to buy one before he leaves.
So to make a long story short, he left with a Sig P226 Elite .40 (Absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!), And I left with this:
http://i240.photobucket.com/albums/ff115/dblbbldaryl/SW5906002.jpg
M1A Loaded with a Springfield Scope mount.
Supposedly this thing has never even been fired.
Given the political climate and the price on this thing, I felt I couldn't let this one get away.
I think I am going to be sleeping on the couch for a long time (my wife is not going to be happy).
I called her from there and she expressed her thoughts on the situation; she then told me "I know you'll make the right decision".
I don't think this was the right decision she had in mind.
I haven't technically broken the news to her yet.
When I got home, she was on her way to work. When asked about it, my response was "I don't even want to talk about it".
I need someone to tell me tell me I made "the right choice".
Am I as much of a selfish bastard as I feel right now?
Any suggestions as to how I should handle the spousal situation?
alloy
December 22, 2008, 08:42 PM
Any suggestions as to how I should handle the spousal situation?
right about now, id rethink that toaster you got her for Christmas.
Csspecs
December 22, 2008, 08:48 PM
If I did that I would be walking around with half a buttstock sticking out of my butt..... I hope things go better for you.
HuntAndFish
December 22, 2008, 08:49 PM
I don't know if you did the right thing or not, but that is a beautiful rifle. If you need to sell it, send me a PM.
Tikirocker
December 22, 2008, 09:16 PM
You've got a hard month ahead ... you need to adopt a 5 point plan and fast.
1 - Make her dinner frequently or take her to dinner.
2 - Take the rubbish out without being asked.
3 - Do the washing up.
4 - Vacuum.
5 - Give her a foot massage at the end of her long day.
Repeat until you no longer sleep on couch. ;)
SDC
December 22, 2008, 09:20 PM
What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.
flyboy14
December 22, 2008, 09:26 PM
Been in that situation many times, before you tell her think it through
did you pay with credit card? if so can you cover your paper trail?
if cash, and she knows where you got it, can you sell a kidney to replace your stash?
There are alot of ways to try and get out of this one, you could face the music, but no matter how bad it gets just remember you still have the gun, and if there is one thing I have learned with women, it is much easier to beg forgiveness than to get permission. Good luck to you. Last time my wife found out about a gun purchase, she wound up getting a really nice birthday present, she still brings that one up, but I am still in the bed and not the couch.
223 shooter
December 22, 2008, 09:29 PM
I need someone to tell me tell me I made "the right choice".
You have absolutely positively made the right choice!
Am I as much of a selfish bastard as I feel right now?
Well , um , er - I have been there before!:D
Any suggestions as to how I should handle the spousal situation?
Hide it - hide it well! Then later , like in 2010 , oh yeah I've had that old thing forever!
A very nice rifle - enjoy that couch!:D
tuck2
December 22, 2008, 09:33 PM
The wife and I stopped off at Kays last week-- Get them some bling-blings before you add a new toy to your collection.....I got a few toys on my wont list...
Delaware_Dan
December 22, 2008, 09:34 PM
You did a terrible thing, send it to me and I will hide it for you.
winchester243
December 22, 2008, 09:38 PM
Can't tell if you made the right choice till you post a pic of your wife. :D
Nice rifle though.
bclark1
December 22, 2008, 09:43 PM
I extend the obligatory offer to hang onto it if you need to stash it for a while/indefinitely.
I think it's worth any amount of nagging so long as you keep a roof above and food on the plate. Absolutely great rifle. Biggest problem with M1As right now is feeding them as much as one would like, as 7.62x51 seems through the roof everywhere. I have one of the shorter M1A models, and I would really, really like another full-length Springfield. Unfortunately the sticker shock has gone from "bad" to "clean-my-drawers" with the current buying climate, so I'm sticking to rifles with good receivers under a grand to focus on builds for now.
Gorgeous rifle though - there's no way you'll regret the purchase after you get it to the range!
SR420
December 22, 2008, 09:44 PM
winchester243 Can't tell if you made the right choice till you post a pic of your wife.
LOL!
Give your beautiful new rifle your wife's name.
.
USMCGrunt
December 22, 2008, 09:45 PM
Well, what I did when I built a new CAR-15 for my son was to first off mention that it was for him (no really guys, we already have 7 more ARs between the wife and I) but it doesn't sound like that's going to work in your situation so we'll try plan B. I had been saving something like $50 per paycheck for a while before I bought my Mossberg 590. When I bought it, the wife asked how I managed to afford yet another gun and I had told her that instead of spending an average of $5 per meal during lunch time (I worked a firing range so we really didn't have time to go to lunch anyways) I saved that money and bought a new shotgun. As an added benifit of that method, my pants fit a little better now too.:D
kymasabe
December 22, 2008, 09:49 PM
I find that buying my wife something of (perceived) equal value usually puts an end to the argument.
Suggestions:
Never tell her the real purchase price, I usually tell her half of what I paid.
Always tell her you got it on sale.
All my handguns are black so she can't tell them apart. Guns come and go and they all look the same to her. Rifles are a little more distinctive and harder to hide. Good luck.
onthejon55
December 22, 2008, 09:55 PM
Just keep telling her that its an investment and that as soon as the ban hits it'll be worth twice what you paid for it!
Then always weasel your way out of actually selling it :D
If I did that I would be walking around with half a buttstock sticking out of my butt..... I hope things go better for you.
So did you marry the wrong girl?... or should i just not get married ever?
scorpion_tyr
December 22, 2008, 09:59 PM
If you're wife is like mine, you just committed suicide. I still think you made the right decision though :D
If you're not willing to get her something of slightly greater value, please hide the rifle somewhere safe and tell whomever you would want it to go to where it is.
TPAW
December 22, 2008, 10:07 PM
You've got a hard month ahead ... you need to adopt a 5 point plan and fast.
1 - Make her dinner frequently or take her to dinner.
2 - Take the rubbish out without being asked.
3 - Do the washing up.
4 - Vacuum.
5 - Give her a foot massage at the end of her long day.
Repeat until you no longer sleep on couch.
And don't forget to lift up the toilet seat!.....:p
Death from Afar
December 22, 2008, 10:07 PM
Remember:" OH that gun...I have had it for ages!"
jbrown
December 22, 2008, 10:08 PM
I used to go to guns shows with a few friends..the one guys wife would get really ****** if he spent too much,so he would have the seller make two receipts,one for some ridiculous amount ,like $48.57 and the other for the rest of the actual cost,then he would only show her the one for $48.57! Worked like a charm.I lost touch with them years ago,hope she never caught on.
Norrick
December 22, 2008, 10:08 PM
lol ouch.
well if it were me i'd find a way to make up for the money, even if it meant selling some other guns that you know will be available later down the road.
do you think she could understand the significance of how time sensitive your purchase was?
BradF
December 22, 2008, 10:19 PM
You are the man!!! You need to be sitting in your recliner cleaning that bad boy when she gets home from work. Tell her YOU wear the pants in YOUR family. Yes sir, that's what you need to tell her.
BTW, when you come out of the coma, tell us all about how that worked out for you. ;)
bigautomatic
December 22, 2008, 10:20 PM
Geez. You need to cowboy up and be a man about this! You work hard for your money! Any real man would disguise that rifle as a snow shovel and make a claim that you are on your way to clear the walk for the elderly folks in your neighborhood. The ammo is easily hidden under several fruitcakes ( No one wants to touch those things) in your range bag cleverly disguised as a picanic basket. Have a nice day at the range, and you can thank me later. Thats how I roll, as the kids say.
bottom rung
December 22, 2008, 10:39 PM
I am not married yet. I still live at home and new firearms purchases are viewed with equal disdain and greater authority is exercised. FIRST, you should have never called her in the first place. SECOND, you should sell a lame .22 or something and tell her the sale was an even deal. That one has worked for me. THIRD, Never, never, call it an INVESTMENT! She will expect you to cash in on it. FOURTH, Kymasabe is right, similar looking guns are awesome because they all look the same to disinterested, yet still restricive, parents and spouses.
I had successfully brought as many as four guns into the house without my folks knowing. An XD .45, a .380 Bersa, 1900 M96 Swede, and a Stag AR-15 were all snuck in. The AR-15 was the killer. I had a hard time hiding mags, ammo, and cleaning had to be done late at night when they wouldn't see it. A good hard gun case will allow you to bring many new guns home without a spouse knowing. All the guns I brought home in a slighlty less than perfectly honest manner are all gone now. The only one I regret buying was the Stag. I really wanted a Springfield SOCOM 16. Then when they found out I would have sold everything else to keep it. The AR just didn't do it for me.
You are selfish and most probably dead by now. You DID make the RIGHT decision. History has shown us that RIGHT decisions are not made easily and they are not without cost. Unfortunately, history doesn't tell us how to handle this type of situation. As a single guy, I can assure that new guns can stave off carnal and/or emotional desires towards women.
Stillhunter
December 22, 2008, 10:40 PM
Similar situation happen to me to.Yes,you made the right choice,No, you are not a selfish bastard,As for the spouse,just make damn sure she doesn,t know how to load it,as she might be the first one that shoots it.
azredhawk44
December 22, 2008, 10:50 PM
bottom rung:
Is that a joke post?
Seriously, living at home and sneaking the fact you have thousands of dollars worth of firearms past your parents?
Uncool.
My personal opinion and worth every penny you paid for it: Move out and sell the wookie suit. Pay some rent and quit buying toys. After all, if you don't have a home to call your own, then how can you have pride in the accomplishments of your life?
While it is certainly possible that you are somehow medically caring for your parents in their old age or some similar exculpating reason exists for your cohabitation with the parents... I somehow doubt it in this case.
Men "man up" to their actions. I do not have a single firearm that was ever undeclared to family or significant others. I work hard for my money, I take care of my personal obligations and I look out for those people important to me in life before I spend my play money.
USMCGrunt
December 22, 2008, 10:58 PM
I have some wonderful news for you. You're reading this reply so that means you're still alive! Keep up the good work!:D
akr
December 22, 2008, 10:59 PM
Daryl---
Surely you did not buy that gun? :eek: :confused: :barf: You're gonna have to get her something just as expensive. Oh No!!!...and it's Christmas time!!!!!
farnorthdan
December 22, 2008, 11:06 PM
This is why I never even tell my wife about my gun purchases, she gave up trying to figure out how many I have long ago, now she doesn't even know when I get a new one and thats the way I keep it. All other financially obligations are taken care of regularly thats all she needs to know. Oh yea, I take really good care of her too, shes spoiled.......:D
DS
sserdlihc
December 22, 2008, 11:11 PM
My wife is sitting here with me reading this thread. She says, your defense is...."Let's take a look in the closet and pay attention to the back of it. You will usually find several outfits and or new shoes that she purchased and forgot to tell you about. My wife says they wait a few months to wear the new items and then say "I've had this awhile" IF the husband even notices.
bottom rung
December 22, 2008, 11:18 PM
AZ, you are absolutely correct. Notice I said I know longer own any such guns. All guns are declared. I pay my folks rent, clean the house, mow the lawn, split wood, and the list goes on. Are they ill? No. They let me live at home while I work full time and complete college. My hope is to save enough money to purchase a home. Did I learn my lesson about sneaking guns past family? You bet. Will I do it to a wife? No sir. Do I look back at it rather lightheartedly at times? Yes sir. I am sure you, yourself know of many young men who have done far more foolish and irresponsible things then those of my own which I declared. They way I figure it, I have no criminal record, I have never touched alcohol or beer, I have never smoked anything at all, and I have never set foot in a bar or strip club. So if the worst thing I have on my account is being so inconsiderate and immature as to sneak a few guns past my folks then so be it. I learned my lesson and came clean with them. My finances are also brought before my parents. My parents require (and deserve) a certain level of accountability that most men are too lazy and scared to require of their own children. Simply put, I am not perfect, and I have not done right in every area of my life. The whole "sneaking guns" thing did not work out because I answer to Higher Authority beyond my parents. I KNOW that, but at times I have failed to APPLY it.
NWPilgrim
December 22, 2008, 11:24 PM
First, you did good.
Second, if she can notice a new rifle in your collection then you don't have nearly enough. Buy a bunch of Mosin's, SKS, SMLEs and some single barrel break-open shotguns, and a few .22 (that blued 10/22 looks just like an M1A, right?). The first few rifles are the hardest. After you have a dozen or two she gives up and loses interest.
Third, you traded for it or got it at a steal price. This baby will be worth three times what you paid for it in ten years (she won't remember by then).
Fourth, DO NOT mention how much you now need to spend on ammo, genuine leather sling, steel scope base, scope, case, reloading dies, cleaning brushes, spare parts, special tools, etc.
Fifth, the best camouflage are more of the same or similar. Start planning purchases of M1 Garands, Mini-14, 10/22, M1 Carbines and of course M1As.
Sixth, stop calling your wife about purchases from the gun show. Good grief, man, are you retarded? Don't rub her nose in it!
Seventh and final tip, remind her how she'll thank you for having so much foresight when some day the Zombies come knocking down your door, and you'll be there to protect her with you battle proven rifle.
BradF
December 22, 2008, 11:28 PM
sserdlihc, AH HA! Now that right there is some good info. :D
Swampghost
December 22, 2008, 11:42 PM
Really shiny stones will make up for most transgressions. Hope that you didn't blow the whole wad on you.
Whe Mama's not happy, nobody's happy.
johnwilliamson062
December 22, 2008, 11:52 PM
no you did not make the right decision. Saying "I do" was a terrible mistake you will never be able to afford.
Ignition Override
December 23, 2008, 12:37 AM
Your beautiful "M-14" is the Maserati of military rifles (they say).
For what it might be worth (seeing the word wife somewhere), my wife-since 14 years- has been fairly tolerant of my several rifles, all bought since my Very First Gun Purchase (Ever) in Oct '07 (and I'm 53). Two Minis, two MN 44s, one SKS and thousands of rounds (plus ancient .22) . All bought in the eleven months before the election, except for 440 x54R rds, shipped by 'JGsales' to a friend's house ;). His wife is 'cool'.
I told my baffled wife this, in these exact words, although this might not work for others:
" 1) These are fun.
2) If one is careful, they (all used) can usually be resold at or near purchase cost.
3) If there is a natural or man-made disaster, we can protect ourselves".
And "Women can only sell their extra shoes or purses for peanuts, and many guys spend similar money on titty bars, drinks and casinos, with nothing to show for it." Quote-unquote.
The truth speaks for itself-IF these are affordable.
When she heard (August) that I needed a second MN 44, she dropped her head with a weird, stunned look and blank stare, slowly turning her cranium as if she had been struck by a South American native's blowpipe dart (loaded with animal tranqulizer). My response: "Hey-it will be a very early Christmas present from you (last August, before the road trip thru Clarkesville TN) and it will be the last gun".
If a wife makes herself a bit angry, a guy can consider similar words in the proper situation (plagiarism is ok, if it raises your speech grade to a C+ or B-) and be frank.
For younger women, try to make sure that it's not a "bad time of the month" for her.
Most women aren't often prepared to hear the Simple Truth, but the more level-headed ones tend to comprehend the much seedier alternatives (dark, gritty, smoky 'titty bars' with no windows etc) and accept it. If all of our crumbs/raisins fall on a plate/in the disposal, it can help+keeping muddy running shoes outside.
RamSlammer
December 23, 2008, 12:46 AM
Well, you did get rid of one gun, so the net balance of guns owned is the same . . . err . . . how's she at math?
Seriously - Tell her it's an investment. Doubtful it will ever be worth less than you paid, it's liquid in that it can be sold easily and even shooting it regularly, it will likely be worth more in 10 years. Not many folks can say that about investment in stocks or bonds lately.
Yithian
December 23, 2008, 12:50 AM
Most men don't believe me when I say it.
Most women agree with me COMPLETELY.
Rifles, especially expensive ones, should be considered as guy jewelry.
The easiest way out of this arguement, is to buy her something "jewelry" as well.
The good part is, women go for jewelry that is far cheaper than a firearm.
And, trust me, it truely works. Personal experience.
longrange08
December 23, 2008, 12:57 AM
YOU ARE SOO FUC*ED LOL yup would definatly start buying her stuff and fess up to her but NOT for the full price:)
Walther22lr
December 23, 2008, 01:02 AM
Slip it into the back of the gunsafe at home while she is out. Next, leave it in there for a few months. Then start to let her see it on occasion in the back of the safe. Start to gradually move it to the front of the safe.
One day she will say "When did you get that? I don't remember seeing it before...". Your response then is to say: "Oh, this old thing... I've had it for ages, you remember seeing it before...". Thats when she will say, "Oh, yeah, thats right, I have... never mind".
Problem solved!:) Enjoy new rifle!
freakintoguns
December 23, 2008, 02:49 AM
hey man ts your money right? yall both work? so dont sweat. i bet shes got a couple outlandishly priced purses you have no clue about
dont sweat it . if she asked tell her yea i got a new toy. if not cool
BTW i also live with my mom (m y dad is deceaced and ill be damned if i leave her alone to fend for herself) she just shakes her head when i come home from wally world with 2-300 bux in ammo, but she knows shes safe so it doesnt bother her too much
armsmaster270
December 23, 2008, 03:05 AM
Do what I do buy it put it in the Safe and when you take it out later if asked "Oh i've had that for a long time, it's been in the safe."
Picher
December 23, 2008, 07:02 AM
Obviously, your financial condition is the big question. If you're behind on bills, can't afford to keep your family relatively comfortable, you're in worse trouble than you think. You need to take care of business before buying such expensive toys, whether a gun or another expensive toy (motorcycle, boat, ATV) that you really can't afford.
On the other hand, if you have disposable income it's an entirely different matter. She'll get over it...maybe. The biggest mistake you made was to not buy her something nice before getting the rifle.
Picher
(Married to the same woman 43 years.)
Ricklin
December 23, 2008, 07:24 AM
Footrubs!
34 years for the missus and I.
ChicagoTex
December 23, 2008, 07:38 AM
I need someone to tell me tell me I made "the right choice".
You didn't, you really, truly didn't.
hey man ts your money right? yall both work? so dont sweat. i bet shes got a couple outlandishly priced purses you have no clue about
dont sweat it . if she asked tell her yea i got a new toy. if not cool
Spoken like someone who has no idea how marriage really works. Your spouse is not a "roommate" where you make your money, she makes hers, and at the end of the month you split the rent. You're supposed to be building a life together, managing the bills together, and saving together. If the reason you're buying stuff and not telling her is because she's buying stuff and not telling you - you've got a fundamental trust problem in the marriage that WILL, sooner or later, seriously jeopardize your life together. What's even worse is when you find out she HASN'T been sneaking stuff (like you've been telling yourself) and it's you, and you alone, who've violated the trust.
Thankfully, I think the OP subconciously knows this and has every intention of owning up to his wife.
On balance, it is proper and normal for you and your spouse to have a certain level of disposable income, and as long as you stay in those boundries the above isn't an issue. However, I get the impression from the tone of the OP that he went well out of the boundary.
Any suggestions as to how I should handle the spousal situation?
You did the wrong thing, don't make it worse by hiding it or trying to pull a fast one (that's an extremely dangerous precedent to set in a marriage). Tell her the truth, try to make it up to her - and be willing to part with the gun if it's just too much.
If ya do that, I think you're gonna be just fine.
johnwilliamson062
December 23, 2008, 09:11 AM
My serious advice is to read Chicago Tex's post about ten times before you decide what to do.
I wouldn't buy her jewelery unless you have the disposable income to do it, which few do at the moment. Spending money you couldn't afford to on yourself, then following it up by spending money you couldn't afford to on her probably won't get you out of trouble.
If this ends with you not being able to keep her. Send her my way(gun or wife, I am not picky).
LOL, so glad I'm still single. Feel sorry for whatever girls fall into this hobby with me.
flyboy14
December 23, 2008, 09:26 AM
+1 on sticking it in the back of the safe, used this method many times. I remember having the deer in the headlights look when caught halfway to the door with a secret gun. She didn't have a clue, and how I don't know cuz the look on my face should have given me away. Also dead on about not letting her know how many guns you have. Numbers should always be vague, and whenever it comes up say 'I really don't know". My wife can't tell the difference between 20 or 30 guns in the safe, when stacked properly. If she ever does do a hard count, make sure to mention that you loaned one to a friend. It's sad that we resort to this, but as already mentioned if you start to add up all the purchases that women make, you will be surprised. Who knew that they can spend 150 bucks for a haircut?
stubbicatt
December 23, 2008, 10:16 AM
... Glad I am single.
anythingshiny
December 23, 2008, 10:19 AM
I am laughing sooo hard!!!
We have ALL done something similar...at least once and MANY of us have used at least one of the aforementioned tactical backpedal. " oh that?? had it for like 6 months hun? traded a pistol for it and blah blah", done the fake rcpt thing, and even been honest once or twice about it.
Back with the orig AWB I ran out and grabbed an AR that I really couldn not afford...we were struggling but i justified it in my head. Reality won and I had to sell it soon after..
My wife has her habits and I have mine, as long as the bills are paid and the kids have lunch money...we have come to the tacit agreement that it is a game and as long as we both understand the unspoken/unwritten/unknowable rules..its on. I dont poop my pants when she tells me a purse cost 400$ and some odd facial cream made of pygmy goat cheese from Gondwana land cost 350$ for 3 oz...I wont tell her that my ACOG was a grand even.
VonFireball
December 23, 2008, 10:19 AM
The OP needs to take responsibility for his actions.
It's christmas time.
Face it, he's screwed.:eek:
anythingshiny
December 23, 2008, 10:21 AM
btw..IF you do have to run for cover...I'll be glad to take that horrible thing off your hands.
I think you are fine. Good purchase.
now go do the dishes.
Bailey4765
December 23, 2008, 10:24 AM
Nice rifle man!
A good investment, look at it as your kids inheritance! That's what I tell my wife, and it's true!!
Sparks2112
December 23, 2008, 10:36 AM
Everybody thinks I like Glocks because of the (laugh) ergonomics, or the reliability.
The true reason is because my wife can't tell them apart. :o
Seriously though, really depends on your situation. My wife doesn't work, and let's me handle the money. As long as the lights stay on, the house doesn't go away, and I don't say no to her too often if she wants to get something for herself she mostly leaves me alone as long as I'm not blowing it on women liquor, or both.
Depends on how you guys are, lying to your wife is a bad idea. Lies are like roaches. If there's one you can see there's sure to be a million more just waiting to pop up.
VonFireball
December 23, 2008, 10:43 AM
Everybody thinks I like Glocks because of the (laugh) ergonomics, or the reliability.
The true reason is because my wife can't tell them apart.
I think I might have to use that advanced cloaking technique with the Cimarron model P stainless come spring.:D
SR420
December 23, 2008, 10:45 AM
Whatever you do... do not let your wife read this thread.
My wife decided she didn't like my having guns about a month after we married.
My gun collection has grown over the years and I don't miss her being around...
.
Powderman
December 23, 2008, 10:55 AM
Aw, heck, fella.
If you can afford it without breaking the bank, do it! And, tell your wife first thing; don't try to hide it from her.
If she enjoys shooting, take her out to the range with you, with the gun of her choice. If she does not but shows the LEAST interest, an AR15 is in order. Make sure it has a chrome lined barrel and chamber for making loud noises for long periods of time without worries.
My wife knows that I like to shoot, and I buy gun related stuff all the time. She can shoot, and I think she LIKES to shoot--but she'll never admit it. :D
Honesty in all things in your marriage is the very best policy.
You won't agree on all things; no one will. But, simply say, "Honey, it doesn't hurt us financially; I wanted it, and I got it. Now, is there anything that you want right now?
Well, there it is, from the viewpoint of a guy who has been married to his best friend for over 28 years now....:D:D:D
Good shooting!
CajunBass
December 23, 2008, 11:21 AM
I really can't offer any advice. When I see a gun I want, she just says "If you want it, get it."
I've taken to buying most of my guns on layaway though. A few bucks a week for a while and it's paid off with no real pain.
hogdogs
December 23, 2008, 11:23 AM
Tis easier to grovel for forgiveness than to beg for permission! :eek:
When I had a decent disposable income I was able to buy one gun per week. I often would tell the guy at the counter I wanted, for instance, 9mm ammo... He would then ask what kind or how many boxes... I just said "all of it":D Then the kids came along...
If I discuss a "needed" gun purchase with the wife, we make the adjustments needed but I rarely "NEED" a new gun...
Brent
guntotin_fool
December 23, 2008, 11:34 AM
He has not responded yet, he must be living out back in "De Le Chateau de le BowWow" I have lousy internet when I live out there.
CPTMurdoc30
December 23, 2008, 11:34 AM
Who cares about the wife.
What scope are you going to put on it? I am thinking Burris or Leupold myself.
darko
December 23, 2008, 11:56 AM
DUDE, I KNOW EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM!
I've been down this road many times and am familiar with that nagging feeling that you just did something very selfish. In the past, I would usually balance this out by saying that I spent so much, then you can spend so much.
I finally ended up donating plasma twice a week to feed my gun addiction. Once I started doing that, I felt little remorse when buying a new firearm. I would simply tell her that I quite literally paid for this with my very blood.
The bottom line is that if it does not place a financial burden on your family, i.e. can't pay the bills as a result, then you should be okay, provided you allow her the same opportunity to be selfish and buy herself something of similar value.
Hopefully you get to enjoy your new rifle, and it is a very nice one at that. But I fully understand your dilema.
sserdlihc
December 23, 2008, 12:01 PM
sserdlihc, AH HA! Now that right there is some good info
I believe it is always good to delve into the mind of the enemy...sort a speak;)
buzz_knox
December 23, 2008, 12:12 PM
Here's what you do (assuming you are still among the living):
Tell your wife you had an affair with her mother/best friend/sister/whatever is appropriate, and you bought a rifle. Then, tell her you were just kidding: you didn't have an affair.
Laugh at your own joke and walk away. Even if she realizes you didn't retract the rifle comment, it won't matter by that point. ;)
Gunpowder&Lead
December 23, 2008, 01:21 PM
Been there many times in my marriage. Get in front of it now and tell her what you did. Make sure she understands what a great "deal" you got and that guns are great investments. Sell off couple other guns you are not using to offset the cost:barf: That is what I usually do. It has worked for 14-years:D
Smaug
December 23, 2008, 01:48 PM
I did it with my SP-101 and got caught red-handed. We have a shooting range at the Bass Pro at the mall. Brought the wife with me to go shopping while I'm shooting.
I had been thinking about it. I finished shooting early, went downstairs, and charged it. Was just filling out the paperwork when she showed up. She made a real scene. Tried to tell her: "We'll talk about it later." Nothing doing. Finally, I had to ask why it is OK to have a guest room almost completely overrun with her books and purses, but I cannot have a new gun?
I agree the best way to make this better money-wise, is to sell a couple of your other guns or personal items that are no longer being used. Barring that, be on very good behavior as far as spending goes in the near future, and make sure she knows it.
I sold my Ruger P90, (for $250) and bought the SP101 ($400) and used Bersa 380. ($150) It was not an even break, but it did help cool her down.
Lastly, be willing to have her upset once in a while in order to keep some semblance of independence. Sometimes, you just have to tell her "Sorry Honey, once in a while I have to do what I want regardless of how you feel." and be willing to deal with the repercussions. Of course she may reciprocate, but that's OK.
Bitmap
December 23, 2008, 01:54 PM
I think you got a divorce.
Look at it this way: If TEOTWAWKI comes along next week, she will probably be back looking for security.
hogdogs
December 23, 2008, 01:55 PM
"Sorry Honey, once in a while I have to do what I want regardless of how you feel."
There are many better ways to say this... The mail man and UPS guy don't need brought into this cuz your wifey-poo is doin' what or who she wants... Ya gotta specify BUY!!!:eek:
Brent
Smaug
December 23, 2008, 02:00 PM
Side comment - Good posts bottom rung. I did the same thing with my first couple guns. Mom is anti-gun, anti-motorcycle, anti-anything but work. Being a young man who wanted to shoot but couldn't find any good way to do it, I did what I felt had to do. Snuck them in and out every time I went shooting. Sure, it was wrong but I'm not perfect.
Like bottom rung, I never smoked, drank, or did drugs. I never knocked anyone up, never got in trouble with the law, and rarely ever scored below a C in school.
Nearly every kid (especially boys) do something wrong. I could have done a lot worse.
In the meantime, I saved my pennies, got a good job, and moved out as soon as I could. Now, I have about 10 guns, two motorcycles, a wood shop, and a wife who doesn't try so hard to control me.
It seems like the sensitive issue here is finances. It wouldn't be an issue in the first place if it weren't a financial issue, right? So let me retract my comments in the past post and just tell you to find some way to make it right AND keep the gun.
If I'm wrong and it isn't finanical-centric, do let her go and spend however much money on clothes, cosmetics, shoes, purses, manicures, etc.
Death from Afar
December 23, 2008, 02:18 PM
Bottom Rung said: As a single guy, I can assure that new guns can stave off carnal and/or emotional desires towards women.
BR- can I tell you that much as I enjoy shooting stuff, my wife is far more important than all the guns in the world.
BigDaddy
December 23, 2008, 02:20 PM
One word:
DIAMONDS
--Dave
zombieman
December 23, 2008, 02:35 PM
Tell her you didn't really want the thing but you were thinking of the future. Keep it till obama gets into office and soon double your profit.
vikz
December 23, 2008, 02:36 PM
Nice rifle..well about the other problem I keep you in my prayers:p:p
Happened to me yesterday, she know i went to the gunshop right so after a few minutes i opened my gun case that i brought with me and pulled out the M1 carbine i took out of layaway, ofcourse i'm dumb enough to do it in front of her so she asked me" Is that new??" I'm like nah i already had it along time ago;) one suggestions though just make sure you give her a REALLY Nice xmas gift!!goodluck!!
freakintoguns
December 23, 2008, 02:51 PM
[QUOTE][Spoken like someone who has no idea how marriage really works. Your spouse is not a "roommate" where you make your money, she makes hers, and at the end of the month you split the rent. You're supposed to be building a life together, managing the bills together, and saving together. If the reason you're buying stuff and not telling her is because she's buying stuff and not telling you - you've got a fundamental trust problem in the marriage that WILL, sooner or later, seriously jeopardize your life together. What's even worse is when you find out she HASN'T been sneaking stuff (like you've been telling yourself) and it's you, and you alone, who've violated the trust.
/QUOTE]
IMO Marraige is for the birds. ill be damned if i give half the things i earn in life away to some floozy that cant keep her legs shut (thats amatter of experenice with girls where i live) 5 of my friends have been married, and 5 divorced. so no thank you sir
BuckHammer
December 23, 2008, 04:21 PM
In the end, you're just going to have to realize which is more important, your marriage, or some gun. We all know it's the gun, so make your decision accordingly :D.
HiBC
December 23, 2008, 05:38 PM
Hide a Rose in the fridge behind the orange juice could be good,but it might make her madder if she figures its about the gun.Every Rose from then on might remind her of the deal.Probably,don't do that.Wait.Later.After you have moved from the couch to the floor beside the bed.
Get a DVD of the movie "Tremors" Snuggle and watch Tremors.Marvel a bit at Reba .It might work.But,I've been single a long time,too.
Besides,later on in life,money might be tight and you might have to make a choice between ammo and Viagra....That M1a will still be shooting just fine!!
megarouge
December 23, 2008, 05:44 PM
You need to get to the jewelry store and get her something shiny!!!
U.S.SFC_RET
December 23, 2008, 05:46 PM
Sneak over to the neighbors house with the night vision device you bought for Christmas last year and cut a couple of roses. Assemble roses because you are in trouble. ;)
Apple a Day
December 23, 2008, 06:04 PM
Put a little red bow on it and a tag with her name on it.
You just got her a beautiful rifle!
Okay, it's not what she really wanted but keep telling her it's the thought that counts. :D
JWT
December 23, 2008, 06:05 PM
Sounds to me like you had, or at least almost had, permission to buy it. She said she knew you'd make the right decision and you did. It's done, tell her like a man when she comes home. She probably won't leave you and if she does you've still got a new gun...
Seriously, lots of us worry too much about what the 'other half' is going to say when we get carried away and come home with a new toy. I've found if I just call on the way home and say somethings following me home the displeasure when I get there is short lived.
MeNoLikeTofu
December 23, 2008, 06:08 PM
It wasn't the right decision, sorry.
Be honest with your wife.
It is a beautiful rifle, but unless you're into something a little *ahem* questionable, you have to sleep with your wife. Bad move...
ThreeStepsAhead
December 23, 2008, 07:12 PM
From the newlywed sector:
She wont be mad that long if you keep it a secret until you have a chance to show it off to your friends...as long as it meets overwhelming approval with him and your buddy can kind of "talk it up" like you got the deal of a century, you should be good.
I'm still in the "create the family rules" process...
Good luck though-
Hokie
December 23, 2008, 07:27 PM
I'm with ChicagoTex on this one. It sounds like you screwed up. The good news is that the situation can be fixed.
Be honest. Tell her what you did and why you did it; she may actually agree that it's a good reason. It's a beautiful weapon, but unless you're utterly flush with cash and $1,000+ isn't going to be missed, here's my suggestion:
Tell her that you're willing to sell it if she thinks you two really can't afford it, or at least other guns until you've made up the (real) price. Hopefully she'll agree to the latter, and may even agree to let you keep the gun without selling others. Good luck!
Johnny Guest
December 23, 2008, 07:39 PM
Congratulations, dbl bbl daryl, on your new acquisition.
The thread has veered 'WAY off topic though - - This is NOT the forum for counseling on domestic harmony issues, even if they arose over a new firearm. ;)
(By the way, Daryl - - THOSE GUYS don't have to face the music with your spouse. At least three-quarters of the advice you've been given is totally unsound. Unfortunately, it's up to YOU ALONE to figure out which one-fourth might possibly work out well. :rolleyes:)
Enough. Merry Christmas, everyone.
Johnny
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