I have to agree with Mete, somehow the way you carry yourself is sending an agressive message thats being picked up on by others in the bar. We all send messages with body language, eye contact, facial expressions, posture, bearing, etc.
Im not a big guy, 5'6" and 145#. But even in town, I "carry" myself like the 1SG I am. Its sub-consiouse, and I don't realize that I'm doing it, but people I just met can peg me for a senior NCO.
Next time you're out with friends, have them pay close attention to how you carry yourself, and try to honestly evaluate your body language. Then make a focused effort to adjust how you carry yourself.
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