Stacy, welcome to TFL.
If you haven't done so already, you (and your husband
) should check out
The Cornered Cat. It's a site devoted to women shooters, and you'll find a ton of info on it -- advice about shooting stances, and answers to questions you haven't even thought of yet. It's run by our own
pax, who moderates the Tactics and Training forum and is in the business of teaching women to shoot.