There is the mentality that many of us guys have, and that mentality is that we all know how to shoot. Therefore, we do not some "self-righteous know-it-all" to teach us what we can already do. After all, it's a simple process--aim at the target, pull the trigger. A monkey can do that! (I also suffered from this mentality when I bought my first gun at 21).
That being said, it is also an issue of saving face. No one likes the humiliation of someone else being better. When someone offers us help, the message we receive is "you're not good enough, you're doing it wrong," or other similar perceived messages. It makes us feel inferior.
Here is a suggestion that I can give you. The next time you're going to the range, ask him if he wants to go with (just the two of you). Say you like to shoot with a buddy, and grab lunch (or dinner) afterwards. Don't critique his performance, just let him do his thing. After some warm up rounds, ask him to watch you shoot, to see if you are doing something wrong (like pay attention to your stance, grip, trigger control, etc.). Be sure to demonstrate the standard that you are looking for, then tell him to make sure that you are not deviating from that standard. This will make him feel useful and appreciated.
This may open the door to inviting him to future training sessions. Particularly when you are having dinner later, he may ask questions, showing that he is now willing to communicate. This is the time to point out in a self defense situation, no one will ever rise to the occasion and prevail simply by having a gun. Rather, training regularly and developing muscle memory is what will give you a fighting chance.
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I'm not afraid of the guy who wants many guns; I'm afraid of the guy who wants just one.
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