I like the 135 gr. +P Speer Gold Dots (for short barreled pistols) for snubby carry. My second choice is "old" technology 158 gr. +P Lead Semi-Wadcutter Hollow Points from Remington. An article from Stephen A. Camp discusses some of these old technology loads at
http://www.hipowersandhandguns.com/3...r%20LSWCHP.htm. Velocities from his snubbies ran at 800 fps and up.
You'll notice that in the third picture down is a flattened bullet and one not so flattened. The flattened one is Remington and the one not flattened is Winchester. The Remingtons are made of softer lead and expand better.
I agree with those who think typical out-of-the-box full wadcutters are poor choices for self-defense. They are good for paper punching, teaching inexperienced shooters, and small game.