fxdrider
When I read your post, I had to go back to see if by chance, you were from Iowa as all this sounded too familiar. Have to ask if by your measure, your son's attitude has changed since he has gone through his latest adventure? I suspect, the answer, is NO. ....
In one case that I know of, if he is even caught with a bullet, his dumb butt goes back to jail. I understand you trying to save your son but that's up to him, in the long run. ...
It all comes down to a matter of trust ....
Be Safe !!!