When a good two handed grip is used, it doesn't matter what caliber you shoot. A woman can handle a light 9mm like a Kel Tec P-11 as easily as a P-32. Right now, the P-11 is about the lightest 9mm in the field.
However, in October Rohrbaugh is supposed to start selling its R-9 pistol. It's a shade bigger than a P-32 (meaning "tiny") and about the same weight as a P-11, and it's supposed to have the same recoil as a PPK .380. Women should like it because it's a beautiful gun in stainless and aluminum and with nice lines. There's an MS-9 model with an internal magnetic ring trigger lock mechanism. I'm betting that having a Rohrbaugh in your range bag for a range date will be as much of an advantage for a batchelor as driving out there in a Ferrari.
