Thanks for the tips, I don't think she's going hunting anytime soon, so I'm thinking 357, starting her out with a box of 38. I do reload, and the idea was to load the 450 down to trapdoor levels before she gets her hand on it, just didn't get around to it. But she insisted trying it now ...
I don't think promising her special handloads in 30-30 are going to be calming her
A quick look at gunbroker says Marlin 1894, Winchester 94 AE or the Rossi copies. And reason to prefer one over the other?