I don't have a whole lot of experience with all of those calibers, but I would say there is not much difference in a .40 or .45 in the same gun in terms of power. There is in the geometry of the kick though.
Have you looked into a .357 SIG round? You may look into a gun with easily interchangeable calibers like a Sig Sauer.
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