Welcome to retirement.
I'm also rather recently retired, although I was prevailed upon to still lend a hand in a couple of aspects for a bit.
Yep, been there and had the threats. Some were from folks who were likely never going to be out-of-custody again, but who obviously had friends and family members themselves.
The first time you're pulled aside by someone higher up the ranks and informed that a verified threat against you has been received, and that you should take suitable precautions, it can make you realize that your family didn't bargain for this sort of thing. There you go, though ...
As previously mentioned, each and every partnership can be unique in many aspects, including whether or not your partner is interested in firearms or willing to use them even in extreme situations.
For better or worse.
You take it into consideration and work around it as necessary.
Just like with everything else.