Thanks for the hint for the girlfriend Paul
I guess I should realize that I just can't get it right the first time, and that experimenting with different bullet weights and brass and loadings will be a real learning process. By the way, the ABC's of Reloading came in and I've read most of it, very useful stuff.
Thanks for the thoughts on the hand press PawPaw, that might just be the way for me to go for now. I'm a boxer/wrestler/martial artist so grip strength and fatigue aren't quite as big of an issue for me, plus I'm only 20 so I can afford to use the extra energy