I would choose a .45 over a .40 in a pocket gun because the .40 is a real hand full in some of the smaller guns like the PM40. I was going to buy a PM40, but after renting one at my local range, I decided that .40 in that small of a gun wasn't for me. The recoil was pretty harsh. I have shot full size, compact, and sub compact .40s before, and the recoil isn't that bad. It was bad in a pocket pistol for sure.
I decided to buy a Springfield XDs .45, and so far I love it. It holds 5+1 rounds, and I carry a 7 round spare mag. Mine is unfortunately at Springfield right now having the recall performed, but it has been a very reliable gun for me so far. I had 2 light strikes in the first 100 rounds due to failure to return to battery, but since then, I have had 300+ flawless rounds out of it. I wasn't too concerned about the two failures, as some guns have failures in the first 100-200 rounds during the break in period.
Sig P220 Stainless Elite 10mm, GLOCKS- (19 Gen 4, 20SF, 21SF, 30SF, 42, 43), Beretta 21A Bobcat, Patriot Ordnance P415, Patriot Ordnance P308, Sig 556 SWAT Classic, Colt LE6920, Kel Tec KSG, 6.5X55 Swedish Mauser CG 1903 M96/38, 6.5X55 Swedish Mauser CG 1908 M96, Swiss K31 7.5X55, BNZ 42 K98, Ruger 10/22 50th anniversary design contest rifle, Tikka T3 CTR .308, Tikka T3 Lite .30-06, Winchester 1200