So this is simply a matter of the "term" being offensive then?
From what Im getting from what youre saying, this is more about being PC than winning the fight.
Self defense is sort of a misnomer too. Once the fight starts, there is nothing defensive about it.
Does it really matter if you put two in the chest, two in the chest, and one in the head, or three or four in the chest? I really dont see your point here. The act is the same.
“The enemy is anybody who's going to get you killed, no matter which side he is on.”
― Joseph Heller, Catch-22