Recoil is subjective to the shooter. Some people are really botherd by it others not so much. For years I carried a kel tec 9mm loaded with +p+ ammo and I ran a lot of that ammo through the gun over the years and to me recoil really wasn't that bad. I now carry a Bersa 45acp loaded with +p ammo while its no "mouse gun" its pretty small for a 45. If I can ever track down one of the little taurus 41mags and it proves reliable you can bet it will be on my hip.
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