Try the PX4 full size (twist barrel) w/ a Hogue HandAll using 40 cal and see if you still feel the same on control of follow up shots. I don't have any problems. You will be surprised how easy the perceived recoil feels compared to many of the 9mm's. To echo Skitters comments: it's all about the platform
Especially with the OP's comments on limited capacity, I would rather carry a heavier framed 40 with 10 bullets than a 9mm with 10 bullets.
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