What were the handguns used and is the shotgun a 12ga?? The shotgun is what may have hurt you but a heavy handgun can be a pain for a new shooter with out haveing a solid shooting stance. If hands don't hurt then the pistols are not to blame .
If you can find some other ladys in your area to shoot with they could help with out getting a typical mans point of view!! Seriously many times we may not be the best teachers and tend to over gun ladys do to weight or caliber.
If there any USPSA groups near you there is probably a few ladys involved to help you get into handgun shooting as a sport and buy your own handgun maybe. A .22lr is the something ever shooter should have to. Cheap to shoot and easy to learn with.
Enjoy the sport of shooting