Let her go and shoot and see what feels right in her hands. My fiancé thought a .380 would be a good gun for me and bought one for me. It was ok, but I didn't do backflips over it. I had a hard time with the slide, I didn't like the long trigger pull and it just didn't fit my hand the way my hand thought it should "feel".
I am now the happy owner of a compact 9mm. I have no issue with recoil, no slide issue, the trigger pull makes me happy and I enjoy carrying it and shooting it.