I always catch a lot of flack for recommending 180 gain .357 bullets for SD. So I won't recommend them, just say that I load them in my .357 Magnums.
The Nosler Partition HG, which is commercially loaded as the Winchester Partition Gold. Below is the Winchester tested in water. I have tested them myself in wet pack, water jugs and deer and hog meat. They penetrate and expand well. At velocities as low as 800 fps too.
My own personal opinion is that in .357 anything from 125-180 will work all of hem penetrate and expand well enough for SD. At the end of the day thats what matters. So whichever load the individual shoots well in their pistol and feels confident with, will be the best