You might be able to see evidence of too little flare without pulling the bullet.
If the flare is causing the problem, and it takes enough effort to seat the bullet to cause the damage to the nose, there might be evidence to see.
Like shavings around the mouth of the case or plating material between case and bullet body slightly below the mouth.
Plated bullets have much thinner material covering the lead than jacketed.
Lock the doors, they're coming in the windows.