Glenn nailed it. We need to get away from the idea that what gender a person is has anything to do with their ability to shoot and we should look at their needs and abilities on an individual basis. I've seen 8yo kids shoot 1911's and I've watched a 5'4" woman shoot my .44 magnum better than her 6'2" 220lb husband so with training most any adult should be able to handle a gun in a standard SD caliber.
I'm guessing if she can't handle a .380 she probably doesn't have much trigger time anyway so maybe first start with some more practice. After she has more knowledge and experience she can better decided what gun she would like.
I don't collect guns, I accumulate them.