As with everything else is it all subjective.
That's true. IMO, my version of a snub is something lightweight and pocketable, usually a 5 shot. A full size revolver frame with a 2-2.5" barrel is technically a snub and those types of snubs can of course soak up more recoil. Basically when it comes down to it, what snub are you talking about. My version is an aluminum or scandium frame with a 2-finger grip that can fit in my pocket. If I put big grips on it, it would negate it's use. For IWB, it's an all steel K frame for me.
Bottom line, what snub are we talking about? Frame size, barrel size, frame material and grip size/material makes a big difference in it's shootability and felt recoil.