As with everything else is it all subjective. The fact is a 357 magnum from a snub is significantly more powerful than any 38 load. The question is are you willing to take the time and effort to master it? I see alot of posters here who obviously did not or will not. There are several things that you can do, put grips on the gun that work with the recoil, develop some hand strength and learn proper shooting technique. These things will mitigate the recoil.
My rifle and pistol are tools, I am the weapon.