I have meaty hands. My large(r) carry gun is Springer XD45 Compact with 5" barrel, short and long mags. 4 months ago, I got a Springfield Xds. Love it, but I made a rubber grip to cut down the chafing and also recently designed a special concealed carry pocket holster. I'm wearing the prototype for a month or so and will make/sell them if I like how it works. I have no complaints about the XDs. Just manage your grip, like so many others have said. It shoots better if your wrist is in the game. I just slip an extra mag in a shirt pocket.
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