Do certain brands reload more before wearing out?
I think wearing out is more of a function of how hot you load and what you fire them in.
For .45 acp, any you listed should last a long time.
For the 40 S&W if you load hot and fire in a barrel that is unsupported, you will have much shorter brass life.
I do have preferences, but it tends to vary by caliber. So I might like Speer in one caliber and not in another. Handgun brass can last so long, I don't mind paying new price. YMMV