My problem with the 10mm and .40 is that I can't shoot follow up shots as fast as I can with 9mm and .45. So, I carry 9mm or .45 depending upon where I'm going and what I'm wearing to conceal the pistol. If I'm going walk-about, where there could be black bears, feral pigs, etc. I take my .41 magnum or .460 Rowland.
I think choice of caliber has more to do with usage than just a simplistic "which one is better" choice.