I'm looking for suggestions for a relatively inexpensive gun, preferably polymer, 32 cal or larger that is either full size or just a bit smaller. Also something that is reasonably accurate. I'm also thinking something in 380 ACP so the recoil is not miserable. Otherwise something 9MM for ammo cost reasons.
Recoil in a "full size or a bit smaller" 9mm is not going to be an issue. Price on .380 is going to be an issue.
Basic inexpensive auto, I'd say, Ruger P89 or P95, S&W Sigma. I can't imagine anyone minding if someone dropped one of them.
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