Sounds to me like a Win Mod 70, chambered in 30-06 will do just fine. Everyone has their pet chamberings, but if you noticed almost everything is "compared" to the 30-06. There is a good reason for it.
As for recoil, if it is a bit much for you in stock configuration, A good "magnum" style recoil pad can be added to tame it down a bit. I happen to like the performance of the Kick-eze recoil pads. They do absorb well.
Remember that in you OP you said that this is to be a lifetime rifle. That money will be well spent on a Winchester.
No such thing as a stupid question. What is stupid is not asking it.