I picked the Ruger because as a CCW gun, it is easy to conceal and shoot. I would opt for a regular hammer however. You would want the opt of shooting both single and double action.
The XD and M&P are both good choices too. As a first gun, I just feel a revolver is a better choice and shooting .38s can give you a lot of trigger time.
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