The Lyman 49th is a good, well-respected manual. The others are good also. Really, in today's world, the use for a manual is the instructions in the front and "doomsday" scenarios where the internet won't be available. Massive quantities of data are available online and really render the data sections of manuals all but obsolete.
Here is a thread
I created some time ago which lists all the official on-line sources that I could find.
New reloaders should own and read (at least) one manual and The ABCs of Reloading.
Still happily answering to the call-sign Peetza.
The problem, as you so eloquently put it, is choice.
He is no fool who gives what he can not keep to gain what he can not lose.
-Jim Eliott, paraphrasing Philip Henry.