Finally. . . .
Appears the thread is winding down, so I'll take this opportunity to make a few last observations.
I thought, foolishly, that I was the only one who had the spousal objection dilemma. I know better now, and when you think about it, it makes sense: there are plenty of smart people out there who recoil instinctively at the thought of someone near and dear carrying. Doesn't make them ignorant leftist tools; it's a gut reaction that, sometimes, can't be countered even with powerful arguments.
I've learned, too, that when you run into situations where a resolution seems impossible and the choices range from bad to worse, it pays to seek perspective from people you don't know who are knowledgeable about the issue.
Lastly, the quality of your comments motivated me to show my wife the whole thread, and that made a difference in the end.
So, thank you all.