I went through this process last year. After many years of my patient coaxing, she finally decided that she was ready to own a firearm. I let her hold both autos and revolvers at a local gun store, just for her to get the feel of the two. Her small hands gripped revolvers better. I bought her the Ruger SP101 in .38 special and she does very well with it at the range.
Once a month, I take her to a nice lunch at a favorite restaurant and then we follow it up by 30 minutes at our local indoor range. Each time, she gets more and more confident with it.
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