Great thread. I have had similar circumstances happen at my home with my wife.
My wife is a bit more gun knowledgeable than the OPs, but she still needs some training. And untill Christmas, she has never had a gun of her own. There is a S&W Bodyguard .38spl with laser under the tree for her!
Thaks PAX, I just ordered your book to go along with the S&W! What a great gift pair, the gun and the book!