I agree with you Marine..... I can tell a slight difference between a 9mm and my SR40 if I shoot them back to back, but when I'm only shooting the SR40, I don't think it has an excessively snappy recoil at all. And of all the guns we tried before settling on the XDm 9mm for my wife, the SR40 seemed to be the most accurate for both of us. Even my wife had a pretty tight pattern with it, even though she doesn't really like to shoot it.
I had a chance to shoot a .500 caliber with a 4" barrel last weekend. Nothing seems too snappy after shooting that beast! They wouldn't let us even shoot it in the handgun range, we had to move to the rifle range. I wouldn't want to practice with that every day!