No direction or even coherent subject matter in the OP. This is a drive-by and will be closed unless the OP edits the first post to include some sort of point for discussion...
Still happily answering to the call-sign Peetza.
The problem, as you so eloquently put it, is choice.
He is no fool who gives what he can not keep to gain what he can not lose.
-Jim Eliott, paraphrasing Philip Henry.