As far as .357 Mag is concerned for SD, if I used it I would favor 158 gr Gold Dots @ 1250 fps. They should be slightly (
) easier on your ears and eyes, but not easy at all on the poor wretch hit by them.
The "nuclear" 125s @ 1450+ fps are simply murderous on your ears, too much to be practical IMO. Some of the tamer 125s like Golden Sabers are still very, very deadly and not quite as punishing to the shooter.
I do have some custom loaded 158s @ 1450 fps, they are fun for destroying things.
1944 Mauser byf K98 8mm, K31 7.5 x 55 Swiss, Rem M700 Classic 8mm, 1920s Colt New Service .45 LC, Browning Hi-Power and HK P7 in 9mm, SAIGA .308 22", SKS 7.62x39mm, S&W 686 Plus 6" and Taurus 617 2" in .357 Mag, Ruger MkIII Target 5.5" BB .22LR, Mossberg 500 & Marlin 120 in 12 GA, etc.