I share the opinions of those who think of their j-frames as self defense tools. My 638 has various dings & scratches on it. No longer pretty at all. I don't really care. Works just fine. - - - Ever see photos of the weapons used by front line combat troops ? Its obvious that they care about function, not looks.
I have some firearms that may be considered more 'collectible'. In general, I try to take very good care of my guns. But if you use them, theyll get 'character marks'. And to me a current production j-frame is like a Glock, - a tool.