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It's in ones DNA. Most women are conditioned to be home makes/peace makers. That is why so few practice with weapons. Men, on the other hand, have their DNA coded to be hunters/protectors.
That does not mean all men or women are that way but the majority are.
And that is why you see the disparagency between the two.
And do note, very very few men are John W. Hardens. Very few.
“We can evade reality, but we cannot evade the consequences of evading reality” Ayn Rand