I'm moving this to the Tactics and Training forum. Most all of these issues have been addressed at length over the years. Nothing necessarily wrong with discussing them again, but there's only so many suggestions out there, as I say, all assumption based so different from one person to the next. You should spend some time browsing other threads in that forum.
Still happily answering to the call-sign Peetza.
The problem, as you so eloquently put it, is choice.
He is no fool who gives what he can not keep to gain what he can not lose.
-Jim Eliott, paraphrasing Philip Henry.