I think the misunderstanding (perhaps) centers around perceiving any particular technique as "one size fits all".
Bob: My quite humble suggestion to you is to participate in a good Force-on-Force class. You'll either confirm your suspicions or have your eyes opened. I strongly suspect it will be more the latter than the former.
Since I am admittedly somewhat ignorant regarding single-action revolvers, maybe you can clarify something for me. Are you carrying a SA revolver cocked, or are you cocking upon draw? It seems either technique has its share of "bad practice" issues, but maybe there is something I'm missing?